Lane Moore is a woman of many talents. She's written for The Onion and been the Sex and Relationships Editor for Cosmopolitan. She is also the singer for Is It Romance, as well as a stand-up comedian known for her Tinder Live shows. Now, Moore is also the author of a new best-selling book: How To Be Alone: If You Want To and Even If You Don't. It's a combination autobiography, discussion of how we deal with each other, and a reassurance that loneliness is not some type of personal failure. The book is funny in spots, hard to read in others, and incredibly honest from start to finish.
Moore had a painful childhood where she felt a lack of any support and nurture right from the beginning. She is upfront about the lifelong problems that environment created for her when it comes to dealing with other people. There are stories of self-parenting and having warped expectations of what is reasonable to expect out of friendships and romantic relationships. (There are also a lot of truths about the twisted messages we all receive regarding what constitutes "reasonable" wants and needs.) The book is fueled by a spirit of resilience as Moore pushes through those daunting obstacles and setbacks while admitting there are times she's had enough of the world.
Loneliness often feels like a taboo subject in our culture. We're discouraged from talking about it with others in the "real" world, and it's borderline illegal on social media, where everyone is posting pictures of their "perfect happy" lives. However, it's something everyone deals with at times. One of the best parts about How To Be Alone is that acknowledgement: Whatever your situation or background, we've all been there. You're not alone, you're not a "loser," and don't you ever forget it. The book includes a list of tips for handling loneliness during events like the holidays, and that sucker should be shared far and wide across the Internet. Plus, there's discussion of her rescue dog, and it's impossible to go wrong with that.
Some people may be thrown off by the title, but at the end of the day, the core message of How To Be Alone is one of self-value and self-care, and that's a universal theme. We're all just trying to make it through this world in one piece, and everyone can use the written equivalent of a good solid hug. That is what Lane Moore provides in this book. Recommended.
A terrific book for everyone looking for a better connection to the world. (pic via amazon.com)
- Paperback: 224 pages
- Publisher: Atria Books (November 6, 2018)
- Language: English
- ISBN-10: 1501178830
- ISBN-13: 978-1501178832
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